Elements describe giving a concubine or two…or three, a pass from regular duties with the lord when discovered engaging in cunnilingual pleasuring and/or genital-to-genital lesbian tribadism with other harem members.「Head with neck rolled in tension and gasping for long time」with「rowdy, two orifices juxtaposed for copulation」as a person relieved of official duties (for the time being), EXEMPTED and EXCUSED from further service, with PERMISSION to behave as one pleases. See 免 harem play among temporarily out-of-service concubines enjoying bonobo-like fun involving various cunnilingual positions and genital-to-genital rubbing: see 喜, 嬉, 嘻, 憘 and so on.
　Many, if not most, anthropologists understand that bonobos today exhibit the behavior of early humans:
　「Sometimes females would rather GG-rub [genital-to-genital] with each other than copulate with a male. Parish filmed a 15-minute scene at a bonobo colony at the San Diego Wild Animal Park in which a male, Vernon, repeatedly solicited two females, Lisa and Loretta. Again and again he arched his back and displayed his erect penis—the bonobo request for sex. The females moved away from him, tactfully turning him down until they crept behind a tree and GG-rubbed with each other.」
　　[　https://www.discovermagazine.com/mind/casual-sex-play-common-among-bonobos 2023-05-14　]　
　And not much has changed today, either:
　「Recent surveys of teenage girls and young women find that roughly 15% of young females today self-identify as lesbian or bisexual, compared with about 5% of young males who identify as gay or bisexual. …Female sexuality is different from male sexuality. If a straight boy kissed another boy, perhaps to amuse some girls who might be watching, he would be unlikely to undergo a change in sexual orientation as a result. But, as Professor Roy Baumeister at Florida State University and others have shown, sexual attraction in many women seems to be more malleable…. If a teenage girl kisses another teenage girl, for whatever reason, and she finds that she likes it—then things can happen, and things can change. If a young woman finds her soulmate, and her soulmate happens to be female, then she may begin to experience feelings she's never felt before.」
　「Especially if all the guys she knows are losers.」
　　[　https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/sax-sex/201004/why-are-so-many-girls-lesbian-or-bisexual 2023-05-17　]　

Modern definitions (that generally disregard history) …excluding politically incorrect concepts and other meanings deemed offensive today; may list only pigeonholed definitions, euphemisms, or meaningless mnemonics)
Chinese: to excuse someone; to exempt; to remove or dismiss from office; to avoid; to avert; to escape; to be prohibited
Japanese: dismissal, in deference to, in light of, considering, to dismiss, to exempt, to escape from, to be rescued from, to avoid, to evade, to avert, to elude, to be exempted, to be relieved from pain, to get rid of
Unihan extended: spare; excuse from; evade
EDRDG: excuse; dismissal

Used within names (nanori)
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